I realized something about fear, that it’s just another form of prison. You succumb to it for as long as you allow yourself to, you feed it whatever it needs to be fed to stay alive, you make it an excuse for doing or not doing something, you build a home for it in you, you embrace it as an insecurity, but the freedom you get to feel when you overcome it is unfathomable. We’ve all been told at some point that fear is a state of mind, well, at least I’d say I have heard it a million times, but some things never really make sense until we experience them.
Let me share my recent experience with fear, to bring this into focus.
I’ve had the fear for speaking in front of the camera for as long as I can remember, I’d justify it as “I don’t think I’d wanna have a YouTube Channel, I’m not made for that”, “I’d rather start a podcast”. All these made sense until I had to face the fact that I fear seeing and hearing myself speak on camera.
I then took a step towards overcoming that fear I was so comfortable with, by challenging myself to sit in front of the camera at least 2 or 3 times a week, speak and then watch the videos afterwards. This was out of my comfort zone, but I made a conscious decision to step up and show up for myself. Due to the National lockdown in South Africa, I had to reply to interview questions for a feature I was requested for, in video format. On Monday I dressed up and looked pretty for the camera. I planned to start by answering the questions that were sent to me. As I write this, the video was 30 minutes long, I had anticipated that I would at least manage to do 15 minutes max. I can’t even express the feeling I felt when I completed that task.
After shooting that video, a close friend asked me why don’t I start a YouTube Channel, or start with IGTV. The idea immediately resonated with me, and I’m happy to let you know that I’ve posted twice on my IGTV and I have created my YouTube Channel.
If it wasn’t for me taking a step towards overcoming my fear, I’d still list speaking on camera as one of my fears. It doesn’t even make sense why I feared it now. It was all in my head.
Maybe that’s what we need to do most of the time, to do exactly what we fear and see what happens after that. In most cases? We’ll be proud of ourselves. I don’t know what your fear is, what you’re uncomfortable with or what you’re uncertain about, but I know that fear exists until you overcome it, it has power over you until you face it head on, and it’s a state of mind.
Most times we’re held back in life by the limiting beliefs we’ve subscribed to. Some things don’t happen for you because you don’t believe that they actually can happen, you’ve become the stumbling block to the things you want.
It’s very easy for us to make decisions to change, but aligning our lives in the direction of that change is what’s difficult. It all comes down to you and how badly you want that change, and unfortunately there’s a lot no one else can save us from but ourselves. Make the decision, and align yourself in the direction of that change.
I hope this piece draws you closer to overcoming your fears. Please subscribe to my YouTube Channel, a lot of business, lifestyle and self development content is coming soon.
Hi, I am Duduzile Noeleen Ngwenya, but you can just call me Noeleen. I’m a 23-year-old entrepreneur, blogger, freelance social media manager and marketer, from South Africa. I love writing about Business and Lifestyle related content! READ MORE...